What do you love about yourself? What a question right? Even if we do have things we love about ourselves we are often afraid to say it. We don’t want to come off as boasting or conceited. Because women who own their shit are often considered full of themselves, pompous and arrogant. I’m here to say, who cares what people say? As long as you aren’t really pompous, I want you to own what you love about yourself. Because isn’t it hard enough to find things we love about ourselv

Life is not all about the small things but it is the small things that can bring us great joy if we allow them. For some reason we feel silly getting excited about little things. It is those things though, that we can enjoy often and feel that more excitement in our lives. I’ve learned a lot in my transition from pessimist to Hopefulist and I believe one thing that has made a huge difference in my how happy I am is how enthusiastic I am about the small things. If you get exci

Let’s talk about some of the lies we tell ourselves. What type of excuses do you use to get out of doing things you know will bring you a sense of pride, meaning and accomplishment? We all tend to push these things off because they are hard. It’s so much nicer sitting in that comfort zone and not challenging ourselves. But is that a life worth living? Are you excited when you get up in the morning, anxious to get the day underway? No, hmmm….I wonder why. Because you aren’t li

Do you want to make this the best possible life you can? I’m guessing the answer to that is yes. You need to ask yourself where you want to be at the end of your life? Do you want to be doing what you are doing now? Do you want more then what you have now? Then, you need to start making a plan to get there. You’re not getting any younger. You need to figure this out and quick like. What is it you really want? You know how you can answer that? Write a eulogy for your own funer

I read this quote one time. I don’t remember where or who said it but it really resonated with me. Create a life you don’t need a vacation from. Yes! That’s it. That really is the goal isn’t it? I believe I have done a good job of this. The picture above is taken in my back yard. Yes, my backyard is a lagoon off the Barnegat Bay! I wake up to see the light reflecting off the water every morning. It’s a great way to start the day. I just sit and watch the subtle waves of the w

When it comes to discipline one of the most important things you can do is to remind yourself of why you want to acquire the new discipline. When you absolutely don’t want to do what you need to form this new habit, and that will happen all the time, remember your reason why. Are you trying to get to the gym? What is your real reason for wanting to work out? Is it to get stronger? Lose or keep weight off? For health reasons? To get into a certain pair of jeans? To show up you

One of the most effective ways to develop a new discipline is to hold yourself accountable in some way. Tell people what your plan is. Line someone up to check in on you and make sure you are doing what you say you are. We are often more accountable to others than we are to ourselves. I’d like to change that at some point for all of us but for now let’s make it work for us. The reason people who work out with a trainer are more successful with their workouts is because they a

How true is that statement. Achieving success takes work. You have to put in the extra effort. You have to work harder. You have to have discipline. You must be willing to do what it takes to get where you want to go. You have to do it even when you don’t feel like it. You have to do it even when it gets hard. You have to keep at it. When it comes to discipline the best thing you can do is set yourself up for success. Anticipate roadblocks and plan for what you will do to get

When it comes to training yourself to have some discipline for a certain goal you are striving for; don’t bite off more than you can chew. Like the quote above says…people tend to think they can do everything right now but when it comes to long term results they don’t think they can get much done. Don’t overshoot. Don’t wake up one day and think…I’m going to run a marathon when you’ve never been a runner. Also, don’t think you are going to show up at the gym that first day an

Discipline. It’s such a dirty word isn’t? One we don’t like, at least. One we try to ignore. One that we often run away from. Why? Because it’s hard to be disciplined. It often means doing things we don’t want to do. Or giving up things we don’t want to give up. But what if we change our focus when it comes to that word? What if we start looking at what we will be getting once we discipline ourselves? Keep the focus on the end result…at all times. Write out your end goal. Rea

Practice makes perfect, right? It’s true. Just like the quote above says…it’s not what you do once in a while, it’s what you do regularly. Do you want to be happy in your life? Then, you need to practice it. Take into account all the things I have talked about this week. Decide to be happy. Figure out what it will take to make that happen for you. Then live your days in a way that will bring that about. Don’t get inside your own head too much and keep at it. It won’t be easy

I’ve come to a realization recently. Watch out because I’m going to share it with you. I’ve talked about how I read about 57 self help books until I found one that really resonated with me. One that really struck and broke it down in a way that made actually want to try what they were suggesting. That book, of course, was “You are a Badass” by Jen Sincero. I think what made her book different for me was 1. I may have just been finally ready to make a real change. But more tha

I had put a Facebook post up a few years ago that stated…do something that brings you joy every day. The responses I got from that post were something like this…as if I have that kind of time, yeah…if only, must be nice to be able to do that. And more of the like. Here is the thing, what is it you think brings you joy? Is it only a beach vacation or buying a new car? If that is the case, you’re right…you won’t ever be able to feel joy every day. But if you redefine what bring

When it comes to living the life you dream of you must do it with intention. You have to set your intention for the day and then make it happen. Whether it be having a good day to getting your workout in or staying on track with healthy eating. Whatever it is you hope you day to be…you have to set the tone and live up to that moment with intention. Unless you are very lucky you won’t wake up one day and have everything you’ve always wanted. It just doesn’t work that way. If y

It’s the first full week of 2020 and time to get down to business on that life you’ve been dreaming of. It seems like a tall order, doesn’t it? How do we go about living the life of our dreams? The very first thing you have to do is to decide to do it. It’s about making the decision. After that, there will be no stopping you. You’ve seen it before where people say you have to decide to be in a good mood. You have to decide it’s going to be a great day. Guess what? It’s true!

My wish for you is to roar into this new year like gang busters and start crushing it! But alas, it doesn’t look like some of you are quite ready to shout your goals out to the world. It’s okay. You’ll get there. I’ll help you. So, for today, let’s start a little smaller. But I hope you will take some serious time over the weekend to put some thought into what you really want out of life. It is the pursuit of your goals and dreams that truly make you happy. How do I know? Bec

It’s the second day of a new day and I have to say I’m a little disappointed. I wanted to hear some of your big goals for this new year and I had zero responses. Zero. I can get 40 people to respond to ketchup or mustard on a hot dog but when I ask about a goal you are seeking this year…nothing. I’m not sure if you aren’t planning any goals or if you are afraid to share them on social media but either one is not helping you. I’m here to help you. But you have to help yourself

It’s time to do a year in review. Where are you now compared to a year ago? I’d like you to write something down from every month of the year and focus on what was new, different, better, worse? Figure it out. It really only took me about 10 minutes to do it this morning. It was a really interesting exercise. It was cool to see on paper how different each month was so different from the next in my life. How fast I grew once I started this business and how much I learned from

What a difference a year can make! How much has changed for you this year? Is it something hugely obvious or have there been small adjustments that you need to reflect upon and examine? This is the time to do it. The picture above is my new morning routine. I sit on the couch with the news on to see what stories I would like to include in this podcast. I have my best girl snuggling up next to me. I drink coffee and peruse the news on my iPad and go over notes I made the day b

It’s Christmas Eve eve! I just love the holidays. I still have the excitement of a kid looking forward to all the wonderful blessing about to be bestowed on us. Good will, spending time with loved ones, seeing the face of someone light up when they open the perfect gift, the food and yes, all the presents! Is it just me that still loves getting presents? I love to give gifts too but I still love to get stuff! There! I said it. I love presents…bring on the presents! Hopefully